The Illusion

Successful people get what they want more often than the rest of us.

What could be more obvious than that?

After all, we could say that, in many respects, that’s the definition of success: the ability to get what we want.

If we don’t get what we want, we’ve failed. If we do get what we want, we’ve succeeded. And the people who get what they want most often are the most successful.

End of story.

So we take this idea and use it to compare ourselves to “successful people.” And it’s no secret what happens. We come away feeling frustrated and discouraged.

Just look at them out there “getting what they want” at almost every turn while we sit here struggling to make it and mounting up failure after failure.

And we ask ourselves, “What am I doing wrong that is causing me to fail?”

Who hasn’t found themselves asking this question at one time or another?

While there are many ways to answer this question, none are likely to be very helpful.


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